Why I Am Insecure—and Want My Wife to Pay for It
Most of us learned to develop defensive structures and strategies to protect ourselves from painful situations and relationships in our past. But what happens when those defenses [...]
The Pilgrimage of Grief
“The wailing of broken hearts is the doorway to God” —Rumi, 13th Century Poet/Mystic Do you ever feel like you are walking through life with no skin [...]
When Shame is Deeper than Salvation
It is common, particularly for Christians, to confuse humility and self-contempt, believing that avoiding the sin of pride means considering ourselves shameful and dirty. Here I confront [...]
Blessing Pornography: From Shame Toward Delight
Here I extend the invitation to engaging the realm of pornography—where, for many people, shame and self-contempt are far too dominant. Where is the beauty in our [...]
The Good Grief
Here I write of my own experience with sense of loss during this season and about how we can honor grief even when it contradicts the expectations [...]
A Pornographic Style of Relating
As I mentioned in my previous article, I come from the first generation where Internet pornography entered our homes with staggering regularity. The pattern of pornography use [...]