Slow Sex: Why Men Must Learn Presence—and Why Women Deserve More
Healthy sex with your partner is not about practicing some new sex tip you saw on TikTok or a new performance strategy you researched while watching [...]
How Men Categorize Women—and Why It’s Killing Intimacy
Men are taught early on to categorize women. We do this unconsciously and instinctively, often forming this approach in adolescence. It’s part of the socialization of masculinity [...]
The Seduction of Men’s Recovery Groups
Men’s recovery groups matter. They give men a space to practice honesty, connection, and vulnerability — a place where deep shame and sorrow can finally be spoken [...]
I Want to Be Like Jesus, But I Don’t Want to Be Abused
“Well, I don’t want to be just like Jesus because he is dead,” my 5-year-old son blurted out one morning on the way to school. His deadpan [...]
Sex or Slaughter: When Male Connection is Reduced to Intercourse or Violence
For many men, intimacy comes in only two flavors: sexual conquest or violent confrontation. We have been socialized, almost from birth, to face another man eye-to-eye [...]
The Up & Down of Healing Narcissism
“In the one-up, one-down world of men, there’s no place for 'same as,' and hence no platform for real intimacy. You’re either a winner or loser: [...]