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Abuse is War: Understanding Our Wife in Her Recovery

By |November 17th, 2021|Categories: Addiction, Death, Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence, Glory, Grief, Marriage, Masculinity, patriarchy, Relationships, Sexism, Violence, women|Tags: , , , |

General William Sherman once said, “War is Hell” and I completely agree. I would also say abuse is war, just a different type. The hell that a [...]

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Egalitarianism vs. Complementarianism: What about Submission?

By |November 10th, 2021|Categories: Church, Domestic Violence, God, Healing, Marriage, Masculinity, patriarchy, Relationships, Sexism, women|Tags: , |

Though the words egalitarian and complementarian never appear in the Bible, the ideals espoused in both theologies have resulted in frequent debate among evangelicals (Giles, 2020). The [...]

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Christlike or Pornlike?  A Christian Woman’s Role in Marriage

By |October 20th, 2021|Categories: Church, Domestic Violence, Healing, Marriage, Masculinity, patriarchy, Relationships, Sexism, Sexual Abuse, Uncategorized, Violence|Tags: , , , |

I am proud to be writing this article in partnership with Taylor May, a survivor of emotional and spiritual abuse. She has boldly shared her own story [...]

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Redeeming Power: Reclaiming Authentic Masculinity

By |September 9th, 2021|Categories: Death, Domestic Violence, Fatherlessness, Glory, God, Grief, Healing, Kindness, Loss, Masculinity, patriarchy, Relationships, Self-Contempt, Violence|Tags: , |

The answer to becoming a safe and good man is not becoming weaker (humble, yes—weak, no); it's about becoming more powerful (not aggressive). However, stepping into authentic [...]

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Action as the Repair of an Apology

By |September 9th, 2021|Categories: Church, Forgiveness, Grief, Healing, Kindness, Marriage, Masculinity, patriarchy, Relationships|Tags: , , , |

“I am sorry.” “I am SO sorry.” “SORRY!” “No, listen, I am REALLY, REALLY sorry.” “Forgive me?” “My bad.” “My apologies.” When these attempts at an apology [...]

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Fantasy Roots: Exploring Our Patterns of Escape

By |September 6th, 2021|Categories: Addiction, Domestic Violence, Healing, Kindness, Masculinity, Pornography, Sexism, Sexual Abuse, Sexuality, Shame, women|Tags: |

Fantasy is an effective tool of escape. It soothes wounds and calms the anxious heart. Yet, this commitment to escapism leads to a cowardice in facing our [...]

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