Am I an Abuser? A Self-Assessment
One of the most difficult parts of this healing process of becoming a good and safe man is owning the fact that you have been abusive. So [...]
“You are an abuser!” “No, you are the abuser!”
It's rare for an abusive man somewhere on the spectrum of an abuser not to claim that his wife is just as abusive or is also an abuser. [...]
Scripture & Abuse
*Trigger Warning for those women who have been spiritually abused I am convinced scripture is meant to be a scalpel that facilitates healing and leads us into [...]
The Spectrum of an Abuser
It’s important to note this article's intent is not to be used to justify abusive behavior but to more clearly define it. If you are a woman [...]
The Good & Safe Man
Many women long for good and safe men in their lives. Sadly, they are rare, so much so that my wife keeps a list in her [...]
The Idolatry of Shame: Engaging the Full Spectrum of Shame
Just as there is an idolatry of sex, I have seen a new idolatry arising—the idolatry of shame. Let me explain. There seems to be an entire [...]