Healing But Not Feeling: Men’s Commitment to Faux-Transformation
Let me be candid with you, many men who say they're on this journey of transformation and change are, well, frankly, full of ofσκύβαλα aka skubala [...]
Exploring Men’s Hatred of Women
“It is far more difficult to murder a phantom than a reality.” - Virginia Woolf If you have been using pornography and fantasy for any length of [...]
Is it Trauma, or is it Choice? Navigating My Partner’s Deceptive Sexual Recovery
There is an ongoing debate within the subculture of sexual addiction recovery and betrayal trauma circles that I would like to address. Is my husband’s betrayal of [...]
CBE’s statement on Men, Women, and Biblical Equality
CBE (Christian for Biblical Equality) International has become my go-to place for academic study on my latest book Safe Church: How to Guard Against Sexism & Abuse [...]
On Weaponizing Forgiveness
Illustration by Raquel Aparicio A common abusive tactic that can be used by those in positions of spiritual authority is what I call, “weaponizing forgiveness”. Forgiveness is [...]
My Mother’s Fourth Year of Dementia
Being around Alzheimer’s/dementia feels like being around death. My mom is void of herself—a shell of a human still trying to be polite, hospitable—yet she is gone. [...]