Liberation From Sex Addiction? By Stephen Grant

By |2019-11-14T17:13:18+00:00November 14th, 2019|Addiction, Healing, Pornography, Relationships, Sexism, Sexual Abuse, Sexuality, Shame|

Pleased to have a guest post by counselor Stephen Grant today on the blog. Read his bio and check out his work below.  As I walked up the outside stairs to the church’s classroom I couldn’t believe it was really happening. I was a dead man walking. Life as I [...]

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Pornography & Emotional Enmeshment

By |2017-09-07T20:02:07+00:00August 25th, 2017|Addiction, Healing, Pornography, Relationships, Sexual Abuse, Sexuality|

The pattern I often see when helping others process an unwanted relationship with pornography is a correlation between addiction and the propensity toward emotionally enmeshed relationships. Pornography teaches us to relate with emotional fusion and an inability to differentiate in a healthy way (this is another aspect of PSR). This [...]

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My Love & Hate for Women: a recovering sex addict’s ambivalence with femininity

By |2017-07-26T00:47:50+00:00July 13th, 2017|Addiction, Healing, Pornography, Relationships, Sexuality|

I love women and I hate them. I need a woman close by to survive yet I can’t have a woman too close. If she gets too close, I will either self-destruct or annihilate her in a variety of socially acceptable, manipulative, systemic ways, like a brain surgeon using a [...]

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Sexual Addiction, Misogyny, and Donald Trump

By |2017-04-11T15:21:57+00:00March 20th, 2017|Writings|

Here I reflect on the harm that occurs when restoration is not present, when acts of sexual brokenness are sanctioned by structures of power and, often, complicit church hierarchies. Please note: this article features a quote (widely circulated in news media last year) that is violently degrading and may be [...]

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