The Idolatry of Shame: Engaging the Full Spectrum of Shame
Just as there is an idolatry of sex, I have seen a new idolatry arising—the idolatry of shame. Let me explain. There seems to be an entire [...]
The Good Wife’s Guide
In 1955, Housekeeping Monthly published an article called, "The Good Wife's Guide," telling wive’s how to be a “good wife” to their husbands. This is the [...]
My First Time: A Story of Covert Sexual Abuse
*Trigger Warning: Depression, Sexuality and Abuse It was the summer of ‘02, in my late teens, I was just coming out of my first full year of [...]
What Happens When My Abusive Husband Gets Healthy?
It’s rare, but it happens. Abusive men can heal. But by rare, I mean the data is abysmal. Becoming safe and doing the work of healing only [...]
Now You See Me, Now You Don’t: Recognizing Our Partner’s Invisible Work
Merely being a living, breathing human in this gloriously fallen world is a task in itself. Yet throwing in living in partnership, both people attempting to authentically [...]
Trigger Happy: Navigating Trauma Triggers in Relationships
At our counseling center, we deal regularly with trauma triggers in relationships. Relationship coach Kyle Benson defines a trigger as “an issue that is sensitive to our [...]