My First Time: A Story of Covert Sexual Abuse
*Trigger Warning: Depression, Sexuality and Abuse It was the summer of ‘02, in my late teens, I was just coming out of my first full year of [...]
What Happens When My Abusive Husband Gets Healthy?
It’s rare, but it happens. Abusive men can heal. But by rare, I mean the data is abysmal. Becoming safe and doing the work of healing only [...]
Now You See Me, Now You Don’t: Recognizing Our Partner’s Invisible Work
Merely being a living, breathing human in this gloriously fallen world is a task in itself. Yet throwing in living in partnership, both people attempting to authentically [...]
Trigger Happy: Navigating Trauma Triggers in Relationships
At our counseling center, we deal regularly with trauma triggers in relationships. Relationship coach Kyle Benson defines a trigger as “an issue that is sensitive to our [...]
Why We Love Narcissists and What to Do About It
We love a good narcissist. Like flies drawn to the organic matter within feces, we hover close to a narcissist to try to catch some of what [...]
What is a Sexually Healthy Man?
This is an excerpt from my new book, The Sexually Healthy Man. When you review the graph above, what do you feel in your body? Do you [...]