Christlike or Pornlike? A Christian Woman’s Role in Marriage
I am proud to be writing this article in partnership with Taylor May, a survivor of emotional and spiritual abuse. She has boldly shared her own story [...]
Redeeming Power: Reclaiming Authentic Masculinity
The answer to becoming a safe and good man is not becoming weaker (humble, yes—weak, no); it's about becoming more powerful (not aggressive). However, stepping into authentic [...]
Action as the Repair of an Apology
“I am sorry.” “I am SO sorry.” “SORRY!” “No, listen, I am REALLY, REALLY sorry.” “Forgive me?” “My bad.” “My apologies.” When these attempts at an apology [...]
Fantasy Roots: Exploring Our Patterns of Escape
Fantasy is an effective tool of escape. It soothes wounds and calms the anxious heart. Yet, this commitment to escapism leads to a cowardice in facing our [...]
Counting Condoms & Learning Goodbye
For the last couple of years, I have created an odd and somewhat soothing ritual. As I talk on the phone with my [...]
Am I an Abuser? A Self-Assessment
One of the most difficult parts of this healing process of becoming a good and safe man is owning the fact that you have been abusive. So [...]