Abuse is War: Understanding Our Wife in Her Recovery
General William Sherman once said, “War is Hell” and I completely agree. I would also say abuse is war, just a different type. The hell that a [...]
Egalitarianism vs. Complementarianism: What about Submission?
Though the words egalitarian and complementarian never appear in the Bible, the ideals espoused in both theologies have resulted in frequent debate among evangelicals (Giles, 2020). The [...]
Christlike or Pornlike? A Christian Woman’s Role in Marriage
I am proud to be writing this article in partnership with Taylor May, a survivor of emotional and spiritual abuse. She has boldly shared her own story [...]
Redeeming Power: Reclaiming Authentic Masculinity
The answer to becoming a safe and good man is not becoming weaker (humble, yes—weak, no); it's about becoming more powerful (not aggressive). However, stepping into authentic [...]
Action as the Repair of an Apology
“I am sorry.” “I am SO sorry.” “SORRY!” “No, listen, I am REALLY, REALLY sorry.” “Forgive me?” “My bad.” “My apologies.” When these attempts at an apology [...]
Fantasy Roots: Exploring Our Patterns of Escape
Fantasy is an effective tool of escape. It soothes wounds and calms the anxious heart. Yet, this commitment to escapism leads to a cowardice in facing our [...]