The Art of Lament
“Churches should be the most honest place in town, not the happiest place in town.” - Walter Brueggemann The 11-year anniversary of the death of my courageous [...]
What If My Penis Could Talk?
During my 13-year addiction to pornography and 20-year addiction to the objectification of women, I am wondering what my penis would have said if it had a [...]
The Minimization of Pornography
“I have been in sin and need prayer” or “I have a problem with lust” are common confessions within the church context. Those with a bit more [...]
Practicing Full Consent
I remember when I was living fully into my compulsive sexual behaviors of pornography, fantasy, and masturbation, my brain always seeking its next high. Scanning rooms for [...]
I Caught my Teen Son Using Porn, What Do I Do?
A common question I get asked weekly is, “What do I do—I caught my teenage son looking at porn?” I intend to write the book, The Sexually [...]
Watching My Mother Die
Watching my mom die in such a gruesome way has been agonizing. You see, it’s not your typical tragic ending. It’s not like the horrific cancer that [...]